Nagging Pains of Broken Hearts
Death, Disease, Injuries, and Arrest are not the only bad things that happen when you drink too much. I have never been involved with the above, but have suffered the smaller more nagging pains of broken hearts, lost friendships, and gossipy hungover brunches.
The pictures on facebook are funny until you apply for a job, a scholarship, an internship and you are turned down, because they don’t want to hire a drunk girl, smeared makeup and skimpy dress.
The gossip is amusing until you realize that you lost a friend, blew your chances with the nice guy your really like because you left the club with someone else, or realize that you are a complete hyocrite.
And there is always the look on your professors, your boss, your roomates face….that look of disappointment when you are hungover on a Wednesday morning.
Sometimes I was the sober one taking the pictures, spreading the gossip, and doing the judging. Sometimes I was the one leaving the club with a guy, crying on the lawn at 2am, and being the hypocrite.
And if I haven’t experienced it personally, and thankfully I haven’t, I either witnessed it, helpedit , or heard the tearful stories after the fact of the lost internship, pain of a cheating boyfriend/girlfriend, or the lingering depression, anxiety and stress.
Maybe this seems funny – but its not when you are wake up and realize that your drinking buddies are not real friends, your”friend with benefits”is not your boyfriend and he never will be, in fact he doesn’t even care enough about you to be your friend, you are alone and depressed and its Thursday afternoon – are you ready to start the cycle all over again?
Work Hard – Play Hard – right? Put on your sexy shirt and be a flirt – right? Everyone is doing it – right?
I’ve never been in a car accident, I’ve never been to rehab, I’ve never gotten an STDS, or been pregnant, or been raped. I’ve never had my stomach pumped or vomited all over the dance floor. BUT – I have been hurt, affected by my binge drinking and the binge drinking of others. I have suffered countless broken hearts, lost sleep holding the hair of a vomitting friend, not studied hard enough for tests – missed opportunities, missed moments.
I thankfully for me found new friends that were not into the party scene while
I was still in college – I made genuine friends I still travel around the country to visit, that love me for me, not just my beer pong skillz.
And now that I am graduated, an adult, I still go out for drinks every once in a while – but I haven’t been drunk in 2 whole years and its been great! In fact I am now the Designated Drive of choice! No more missed moments, no more fake friends, no more heartbreaks because of sexy shirts and shots of tequila.
